What the mind perceives the body believes
I want you to think about this for a moment - when you feel like you're in a 'good place' with your life, you consistently see more of the good in the world. You may feel like things are happening FOR YOU. Compare this to when things might not be going so great. Maybe you are tired, working too hard, up late taking care of kids and trying to work a job as well. We tend to feel like things are happening TOO US. You see more of what you focus your attention on, and this is where your energy is directed.
Who you are is not what has happened to you. Let that sit for a minute.
Who you are is not your job title, role in a family, how many hours you work, how busy you are, how many friends you have etc etc. When we believe that these surface level things are what/who we are as a person - we put limiting beliefs on what we can achieve as beings because our mind and body believe we are merely "an accountant". Who are you away from all of that? What do you love most about yourself, your life, your family? This is where we open up the conversation of emotional intelligence and awareness.
Our emotions are powerful rulers or our thoughts, actions and feelings. When we ignore or shut down certain emotions, it can lead to physiological disease by creating blocks in the bodies network pathways. This inhibitsthe flow of vital, feel good and unifying chemicals that run our biology and behaviour. What we are not taught is that some of our thoughts are not true. About ourselves, other people, and things we think about in our environment and the world we live in. How do you want people to see you? Is it different for different people in your life i.e. kids vs work colleagues or mums at school. What are the behavioural traits that you feel you need to embody to be accepted and loved?
Our brains are wired from when we are babies to know that certain behaviours elicit a positive response from external people in our lives (a reward). For example/ as babies we would cry (the behaviour), an adult would come in and feed or change us and we would be happy again (reward). We learn to repeat the behaviours that trigger positive outcomes/rewards to get us what we want in life. When we were babiesthese were things necessary for our survival. But as we get older we continue to learn behaviours that get us what we want or make us feel loved/safe that aren’t necessary for survival.
No matter who we are, how much money we earn, the status of our jobs, the relationships with our family; our emotions can unpick us in a heart-beat. This is why emotional health is as important as physical.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Who do I have to be, to be loved and supported?
2. What experiences are driving these thoughts?
3. Do you have flexibility in how you want other people see you?
